This entry is inspired entirely by a shitty advice article I recently came across during my regular mindless browsing of Facebook. This thing was called, as many of them are, ‘If Your Boyfriend Does These Things, He Truly Loves You‘. Before I go deeper, I must disclose that although I do not have a boyfriend, I do have what the kids these days are calling common sense, which has always proved to be a wonderful companion in detecting stupidity. I’m sure you would also hopefully be wondering, what kind of person with self-respect clicks on these articles? I can explain myself. As a way to keep myself entertained, I like to read shitty articles and mock them in my mind, then sometimes write about the mocking if it becomes elaborate enough in my thoughts. Hence, this.
This article is meant to ‘help’ people who are insecure about saying ‘I love you’ first in fear of not receiving reciprocity. First of all, have a fucking backbone. Communicate your feelings because you feel them, not out of the expectation that they will be returned. But alright, keeping in mind that human vulnerability is difficult to deal with, let’s turn to what advice is offered to young women in this enlightening piece. Continue reading →
In recent times, I’ve learned that I have a dysfunctional relationship with both love and money. Both of these vices have the potential of being deeply positive and deeply negative. As I reflect on both, I see the different parallels that exist between them. When used positively, they have the potential of making life fruitful and beautiful but negatively, they can really hollow out your heart and mind.
For several years now, my relationship with love has been one of taking, of selfishness. I have found comfort in receiving love from people while keeping them at a distance from my heart so that I never have to give back. I’ve thrived from the attention received from male counterparts but been too cool to attend back. It’s not that I intentionally guard myself or prevent myself from feeling or giving; it just so happens that my life experiences have shaped me into an ungiving, cold person. There is some degree of safety in this. You are not likely to get profoundly hurt or sad. However, that also means that you are unlikely to profoundly learn or grow. To shield your heart from hurt limits the richness of its experience. It may feel as though you have the upper hand when you receive and don’t give but what you have is guilt and perpetual loneliness. Similarly for money, many of us like to hoard money for safety and to look out for ourselves, but there is a perpetual sadness in this. Money feels better when shared, distributed, and given back. Holding onto more money than necessary for survival only provides a very hollow, temporary satisfaction. The enriching way to use it is to distribute. Continue reading →
I embrace my painful thoughts
with tears of affection.
Long lost friends that
reveal me to myself.
How painful it was to search my mind
and return with
I ran through hallways of tragedies
only to find the stone face of apathy.
Separated by a comfortable distance
surrounded by indifference
sitting idly in its mindless company.
I ceased to think, I ceased to be.
Before you use your mighty intellectual abilities to come to a poorly educated opinion about the case of Vince Li, use it instead to write down 5 facts you know about schizophrenia. When I say 5 facts, I don’t mean stories, fables, and hearsay. I mean facts. You have the most powerful, information-rich tools at your disposal, so use them. Specifically if you are any one of the army of clowns who aggressively promote ‘Bell Let’s Talk’ day, you should especially find comfort in this task.
If you find yourself comparing the state in which Vince Li beheaded his victim to symptoms of depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety and the like, then just pause and take the opportunity to smack yourself. Even if it’s a metaphorical smack, you now know that you have no working knowledge of schizophrenia yet have taken it upon yourself to impart criminal justice sentencing wisdom to society. So, here are 5 things that you should know about schizophrenia: Continue reading →
I know an unhealthy number of males who are feminists in spirit, in their deep seated ideologies, however, their actions largely take disgusting, sexist forms. In fact, their ideologies are the very thing that assists them in justifying their detrimental actions. They tend to feel that since they already believe in female empowerment, it makes them immune from acting in ways that harm women, that they’ve somehow become shielded from contributing to a culture of misogyny. Right?
(I thought the message would be more powerful if imparted by your Lord & Saviour Donald) Continue reading →